Can you thrive alone?

Having a person…someone who sees you, I mean really sees you seems to be essential to thrive in this world. Someone who hears you even when you don’t utter a sound. Someone who knows what you need because they’ve paid attention to you; your moods, your energy, your strengths, your weaknesses. Someone who knows when you need quietness or peppiness. When you need unrequested support. When you need help regulating your nervous system (especially important for Neurodivergent beings). Even when you need an assertive, “Get up! You are okay, just get out of your head! I’m here for you but I will not support this state you’re trying to get lost in.”

Someone real, someone honest, someone safe enough to be vulnerable with. Someone who accepts all of you, quirkiness and all. Someone who you can disagree with and no hard feelings linger. Someone who wants to see you be your very best and pushes you even when you think you want them to back off. Someone who cherishes you and no one dare speak badly about you in their presence. Someone who stands up for you at times when you are emotionally unable to do it for yourself. Someone who celebrates your wins and helps you surmount your loses. Someone who has earned your trust through actions not just words. Someone your Parent(s) looks at and smiles because they know this person truly treasures you.

What if you don’t have your person? Can you thrive in this world without your person? Is it possible to overcome trauma and truly heal without your person? Can you achieve success without your person?

I hear stories of people touting success all on their own. They’ve built this or that on their own, blah blah, blah… All of my years have shown me that each successful person has had someone in their corner in one manner or another. Emotional support, gained opportunity, encouragement, financial help no matter how small/large. Sometimes simply an opportunity due to association or relational ties. There is always a lifeline that appeared no matter how thin it may have been allowing them to get started and gain momentum.

So my conclusion, it seems impossible to to achieve success completely alone. You need a glimmer, something more than hope. Support, any bit of positive support will help you along your journey; none at all, well let’s just say I have yet to see any success stories without it.

So, what do you think? Agree with some, all or none at all? Let’s create dialogue because I am sure this topic will help so many others. If you have a story of someone who achieved success without any help at all, please share, I don’t mind being wrong about this. 😉